A funny thing happened to me a few years ago; it illustrates how our patterns or habits are really powerful. Here is what happened … the coffee jar was empty and I went to the pantry to look for another pack, but none was there.
My husband being a very efficient and competent keeper of the house never lets anything run out. ‘Strange’, I thought, ‘before I go buy more coffee I better just double check’. He was away, so I texted him to ask if there was any coffee. Before I tell you his answer let me give you some background.
We had just spent 18 months renovating our kitchen/dining room area and had just installed a new pantry. With our own hands we took the wall out and built the new cupboards and later I painted the new room together with my father.
I sat every day in our new bright open space admiring our new shiny white cupboards and the lovely open space we created. Not something that is easy to forget you might think.
My husband’s reply was, ‘there are 3 packs on the top rack’. ‘Top rack, I thought, ‘doesn’t he mean shelf’. I had gone to the old pantry that was in the laundry and totally forgotten about the new cupboards we have even though I look at them every day.
This reminded me of how strong the neural pathways in our brain become when we do things repeatedly. And why it is difficult to break old habits even though the old habit no longer makes any sense. This is because there is no emotion in a habit, there is no thought and it happens in a specific context. So, if our old patterns are wired so strongly into our neurology how do we support ourselves in stopping old habits?
We can use these same 3 features to support our change i.e. prepare something that will reactivate our thinking in the specific context without triggering emotion. How?
How do you think you can use this information to break habits that no longer serve you?
‘On Top. On top of what?’, do I hear you ask? Answer: Self-confidence.
Suite 6 | 179 Marius St, Tamworth, NSW 2340
+61 447 462 446
We acknowledge the Kamilaroi people as the traditional custodians of the land on which we work and live. We recognise the strength, resilience and capacity of our Aboriginal community. We have the utmost respect for the Elders past, present and future. We aspire to join equally with our indigenous brothers and sisters in working to create a healthy and productive environment for the whole of our community.